20 and counting :)

I don't typically use my blog as a soap box, but I am going to make an exception.  Today I saw that the Duggar family made an announcement on the Today Show.  They told everyone they were expecting baby #20. 

To the Duggar family, this is exciting news.  To a majority of the public, this is everything BUT exciting.

Let me be clear, I am very happy for this family.  I probably fall into the minority feeling this way. I have followed this family ever since they became public.  I even own one of the books they have written.  I admire this huge family for many reasons.

For one, the parents are two of the calmest, loving, and happy parents I have ever seen.  I try to imagine how I would look if I had 19 children and I cannot imagine I would be half as graceful as they are. 

Secondly, their children are so respectful to others and to each other.  They are so willing to serve others and love anyone they come in contact with.  Isn't that what a huge majority of parents strive for.  A child who is compassionate, emphathetic, and loving towards all people? 

Thirdly, the Duggar family is completely self sufficient.  They do not ask anyone for anything.  Their large family does not inconvenience others.  They find ways to save money and they make a lot of their own food, household items, and clothing.   Giving back to society is a big part of their life, serving others and caring for those who need help. 

Lastly, their children are so happy.  They love each other so much, they love their parents, and are obviously well loved themselves.  Not one of their children seem deprived for attention.  In fact, I would say they all get more attention than many children in the United States who only have one sibling. 

So my question is, why do so many people roll their eyes when the name "Duggar" is mentioned?  Sure, they are different than most families, Mrs. Duggar goes through labor more than most (myself included) would ever desire to, and I am sure their house can be extremely chaotic and loud at times.  But why do those things warrent a look of disgust, or a rant on fb?  Why do people care so much that the Duggar family wants so many children?  I don't see people freaking out because someone choses not to get pregant?  Can you imagine if someone rolled their eyes everytime you mentioned the name "Cameron Diaz" because she doesn't want children?  The point is, I think people should cut the Duggars some slack.  They are strong Christians, who live their lives for God and truly feel this is where God is leading them in their lives.  They didn't plan on having 20 children when they got married.  They chose to take it one child at a time and this is where that took them. 

Maybe I feel so strongly about this because my husband and I have a similar mindset.  People always ask me how many children we want to have.  I have been responding by telling them this, "We are taking it one baby at a time.  Each month we pray for guidance, we examine ourselves mentally and emotionally, and then we decide if this is the right time.  Although I highly doubt 20 children are in our cards, I am not closed to the idea.  What I am most interested in is following God's will in my life and living my life for Him while I am here on earth. 

Thanks for listening to my rant.  Your thoughts are appreciated and respected :).